I recently read an article about what
women need in a relationship. It got me thinking that men are
equally needy in a relationship but those needs get overlooked.
Beyond men being equally needy, men and women often times need the
same things.
After reading the article I posted a
link to a social media site which got a few comments. I noticed that
the comments all repeated a similar statement – men just need food,
beer and sex. I happen to know this is false because I'm a man and
don't drink alcohol at all.
I have compiled a list of things below
that are universally needed in a relationship with some male only
needs for good measure.
A person in a relationship needs to
know you love him. It goes beyond just saying the words, too. Show
them you love them and they will return that sentiment.
People need active support in his
decisions. Anyone can say, “yeah, honey, I think it is a good
idea. You should do it.” It takes a different kind of person to
help the loved one figure out payroll in their new found company.
Space. Too much space is as damaging
to a relationship as too little space and every person in the world
requires their own amount of space.
They want to be understood. You don't
have to know exactly what to say in any given situation, but they
want you to have some degree of understanding where they are coming
from at any time. You may not understand their excitement over a new
pair of shoes or a pool table, but you should know that they will
react that way when they get it.
People want to feel special. Why do
you love the other person? There are millions of reasons why someone
can fall in love with another person, but why do you love the other
person? Once you've figured that out then learn to express it. Is
it their intelligence? Do they make you feel safe? Can you open up
to them entirely? Let them know.
Everyone wants to feel sexually
desired. The way someone wants to feel sexually desired is as
individual as the person, but everyone wants that feeling. Whether
it is through raw lust, intimate passion, dominated or subordinate.
The moment the other person stops feeling sexually desired then the
sex life diminishes.
We all want our pasts to be accepted.
We made mistakes, and every one of us are a work in progress in some
way. It is the human way to evolve our personalities throughout our
life and in order to do that we must make mistakes along the way.
Some will be a doozy, some will be shrugged off as though they don't
matter, and others really won't matter but we all want the other
person to understand that we're not there any more.
Last, we all want a future with the one
we love. I do not know of anyone who gets into a relationship and
thinks, “this is it. My life can end tomorrow and it is perfect.”
We all want to experience that future with the loved one otherwise
we wouldn't be in the relationship. That means growing together
through experiences. When the experiences stop then the life with
that person becomes dull. Everyone needs a different amount of
experiences as well, so again this all falls back on understanding
your partner.
Lastly, and this goes primarily for
men, we need bacon. Bacon is great. Men love bacon and always
appreciate it when a woman makes us some.
