Love is arguably one of the most dangerous things a person can do. True love, that is to truly say that another person is equal or more valuable than yourself and to value your time with that person more than anything else. To feel as though no amount of time is going to be enough time with that person.
So naturally, there are people who fear that kind of feeling. They may not ever know that feeling for whatever reason - which, I used to believe that everyone knew this feeling at least once in their life but have recently met an individual who seems to have never grasped that emotion. It has piqued my interest as I've begun to try to understand why.
See, most people fall in love when they are young, before they ever know who they are or what they want out of a partner. This leads to the obvious inevitability of forcing a relationship to work, or making more sacrifices and compromises than would ever truly be healthy, or to the ending of a relationship and the forcing of self discovery.
To never fall in love, though. How does one slip through that grasp?
The best answer I can come up with is the inability to love. There are several reasons behind this, though.
Let us start off with the superficial reasoning - abuse of substances. Without going into the various theories of why people become addicted to substances I will simply say that when someone abuses substances it blocks their ability to care for other people in any substantial way. It is like wearing a mask to hide from all the real emotions one might feel if that mask is removed.
As I'm thinking about people who abuse substances I am also confronted with a correlation - those with the second reasoning, at least those in which I have personal experiences with, also suffer from substance abuse.
Which leads me into the second reason - selfishness. People who focus in on themselves as the only thing, or major thing, that matters cannot possibly see an equality of value in someone else.
This naturally leads into more questions - questions that I will explore at a later point in time.
For now, feel free to share your experiences of someone being incapable of loving, whether it be you or someone you know.
-Dustin S. Stover
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Kindle Version: Happiness in a Void of Darkness
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So naturally, there are people who fear that kind of feeling. They may not ever know that feeling for whatever reason - which, I used to believe that everyone knew this feeling at least once in their life but have recently met an individual who seems to have never grasped that emotion. It has piqued my interest as I've begun to try to understand why.
See, most people fall in love when they are young, before they ever know who they are or what they want out of a partner. This leads to the obvious inevitability of forcing a relationship to work, or making more sacrifices and compromises than would ever truly be healthy, or to the ending of a relationship and the forcing of self discovery.
To never fall in love, though. How does one slip through that grasp?
The best answer I can come up with is the inability to love. There are several reasons behind this, though.
Let us start off with the superficial reasoning - abuse of substances. Without going into the various theories of why people become addicted to substances I will simply say that when someone abuses substances it blocks their ability to care for other people in any substantial way. It is like wearing a mask to hide from all the real emotions one might feel if that mask is removed.
As I'm thinking about people who abuse substances I am also confronted with a correlation - those with the second reasoning, at least those in which I have personal experiences with, also suffer from substance abuse.
Which leads me into the second reason - selfishness. People who focus in on themselves as the only thing, or major thing, that matters cannot possibly see an equality of value in someone else.
This naturally leads into more questions - questions that I will explore at a later point in time.
For now, feel free to share your experiences of someone being incapable of loving, whether it be you or someone you know.
-Dustin S. Stover
If you enjoy my writing and would like to see me continue doing so, please click the ad on my page or purchase my short stories linked below.
Kindle Version: Happiness in a Void of Darkness
Nook Version: Happiness in a Void of Darkness
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